When we think about addiction, we probably define it as an intense craving linked to an obsessive behaviour and yes, that is true, but we need to understand the underneath need of taking the “feel better or different” substance to compensate how the person is feeling at first.  Substances can take many forms, the most common; alcohol, street drugs, prescription drugs,  gambling, sex, porn, food, technology and many more.   These are all treated with the same addictive process principle.

If addiction comes with the need to depress negative feelings, then recovery comes with the opposite movement; expression.

Defining “depress” by the action of reducing or “putting down by force” (origin in old French) certain feelings and felt senses.

Then its necessary to  ask “What are these negative feelings?” and “How do we define negative feelings?”

Even if we name it as shame, guilt, envy, fear, anxiety, loneliness or resentment. What do definitions actually mean?

We do not ‘feel’ exactly the same as a definition from a book. Each feeling has a bag of experiences attached to it.

So, how can we connect with each negative feeling and start to express it?

In full addiction, an individual gives all their attention and time to depress negative feelings so, when people start recovery the fear of connecting to these feelings again is overwhelming. These negative feelings normally come all at the same time when the process of detox begins.  Therefore, the guidance for giving time and attention to what is there, to start to explore our own creation of meaning and express it is essential.

At Lovelong House the workshops are designed to go into a journey of self-discovery, not only the understanding of how addiction works and its processes but as well, how we feel, how can we express and connect to our feelings and relate to others and the world.  We cover subjects such as; cross-addiction, cravings, relapse prevention, change, anger, honesty, shame and guilt, co-dependency and gratitude.

 

 

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